I always love my husband. But I don't always like him. Say what?! Hear me out... I love my husband more today than I did the day we got married. And I know for a fact I'll love him more 6 months from now than I do today. Our love is always growing - we're always learning new things about each other - we're always there for each other. But I also know I don't always like him (and I know he doesn't always like me either!!) This may be hard for some people to understand. And maybe I'm way off base. But think about it. I firmly believe you can love someone without liking them 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year (don't get me wrong - you do have to actually LIKE that person otherwise a marriage just isn't going to work...obviously!) But a marriage is still a type of relationship. And just like friendships or your relationship with your sibling you will always love that person but you might not always like that person. And that's OK. And, in my opinion, this is perfectly normal and healthy in every relationship, especially a marriage.
The hubs and I have had a lot going on recently. I tend to get very overwhelmed and stressed and have the tendency to shut down. And when that happens, I tend not like to him...a lot. He can't say the right thing. He can't do the right thing. And, therefore, I end up disliking him most of the time. And eventually, I'll learn to use my words and we'll get it straightened out. But even when this happens, I always tell him multiple times a day how much I love him. And I still kiss him a ton those days. And I still thank him if he does something like clean up after dinner or fold the laundry. Just because you might not like someone doesn't give you the right to disrespect them - you have to remember why you LOVE that person and why you chose to have that person in your life, whether it's your husband, wife, best friend, etc. So you can't forget to continue to love that person even when things aren't perfect. Because when in life are things ever really PERFECT?!?! So if you don't like your husband or wife at times. That's OK. You're human. But never forget to always love that person...day in...day out.
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Heather
6/13/2014 02:58:03 am
I think it was really brave of you to write this blog. Many people aren't able to admit it. I think its a very sensible ad honest way to be. I think that if you can still be madly in love with some one and can't imagine life without them while still thinking they are an arsehole sometimes, shows how UNCONDITIONAL your love is. It's not going to go away because you have a bad day or an argument. Loved this. hugs,
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