I don't take marriage lightly. Nor does my husband. Before we got married we had a lot of deep discussions about what marriage meant to us, what we wanted out of it, what we were going to do to make it work no matter what, and what we wanted our marriage to be like. We continue to have such discussions - marriage is hard work and we know we always have to put the effort into it to make our marriage the marriage we both want. I count my blessings EVERY single day that God brought us together. I know marriage isn't always easy - and I know how blessed I am, though, that ours IS fairly easy most days. Yes, we do put the work and effort into it. But it also comes pretty naturally to us. We've had maybe 3 or 4 fights the 7 years we've been together (that doesn't mean we don't get annoyed at each or that we don't snap at each other...because trust me, WE DO!) We've had our ups and downs but through it all we've worked through it. We both struggle with communicating and we know that's the #1 thing in a marriage. We've come a long way since we first started dating in that area and I'm proud of the communication we now have. I think it has most definitely improved our marriage and what makes our relationship get better each day.
With that being said, one of the first things that I panicked about after finding out I was pregnant was how this baby was going to affect our marriage. We've talked A LOT about this since that day and we will continue to do so. Our marriage HAS to be a priority still. We've tried really hard throughout this pregnancy to still put a focus on our marriage and not let that go to the way side. We've tried to do as many things as possible together - everything from apple picking to a babymoon to renting a movie to shopping together. So when the hubs asked me if I wanted to have date night last night I immediately said yes!! I knew it'd probably be our last one before baby Chi arrives. I wanted this night to be extra awesome just for that reason. I didn't want to be distracted or stressed over spending money - I didn't want to have to worry about doing anything that night. I wanted my full attention and focus on enjoying the evening with my husband. This is no easy feat for me. Sure, I'm always in the moment when we're at dinner or enjoying a movie - but the second we get home I'm like 'Ok - I have 2 hours - what can we do? Laundry? Clean? Organize?' Or my emotions will get the best of me and I'll end up in a full blown meltdown. I didn't want last night to be like that. So I told myself to forget about the laundry (Wednesday is laundry night after all!) Forget about work. Forget about the stress and unknowing the future holds. Forget about EVERYTHING else. And that's exactly what I did. And quite honestly, it was one of the best date nights ever...
...Matt brought me flowers. We tried a mexican place we've been meaning to go to ever since we moved to this area almost 2 years ago. Matt brought home the ingredients for brownie sundaes so we indulged in those while we watched Criminal Minds. We snuggled on the couch while we watched TV and I made sure to stop and just be in that moment - never wanting to forget how I felt - safe...happy...loved...completely & utterly content. It was a simple date night that was absolutely perfect.
It's the simple things that make this life worth it. And I have to remember to acknowledge those moments instead of always rushing on to the next thing. And I did exactly that for an entire night last night...probably for the first time in a VERY, VERY long time. And it felt amazing. It may have been our last date night for a little while...but I'm already looking forward to our first post-baby date night.
Because no matter how long I've been married or what else is going on I'll always look forward to our next date night <3
Hey ~ I'm Renée...just your ordinary, 30-something Accountant, new mommy, wife, runner, foodie, & Pinterest addict! Welcome to my newest adventure...stay awhile...look around...and keep comin' back!